Moving can be a stressful and taxing event for anyone at any stage in their life. It can be especially difficult for an aging person who can no longer live safely by themselves. Often, single, aging parents end up moving in with their adult children when faced with mobility, personal care, or financial challenges. This drastic change in living arrangements can cause tension in your relationship. While this isn’t an easy process, here are some tips to make it as smooth as possible:
Communicate before the move.
After living independently for decades, a parent might find the idea of relying on someone else for help and housing a tough pill to swallow. By having an open dialogue with them, you can find out exactly why they are feeling a certain way and seek ways to address those feelings.
Set a timeline for packing and moving
Work with them to figure out a general time frame for the entire process. Some people prefer to make this change as quickly as possible, while others need time to process. Set a move-in date that you are both comfortable with and work backwards from there.
Unexpected feelings of doubt and sadness are typical during a big move. To keep emotions from boiling over, communicate clearly with your parent and be respectful of his or her thoughts and feelings. For additional help, contact ElderServe’s Care Managers, who can assist with a variety of issues. You can find information about our Care Management program here.
Give them space
You both will need time to adapt to this big change. Remember that your parent is in an entirely new environment. Provide emotional and physical space to adjust. If you have a finished basement or additional space, consider allowing them to call that space their own. This will increase their sense of independence, making the transition easier.
Find things that you can enjoy together, whether that’s preparing a meal or special dessert, playing games, taking walks or spending more time with the grandchildren.
Despite the often-stressful process of moving, this transition will ensure his or her well-being for years to come.
If your parent requires additional care that you can no longer handle, ElderServe’s non-medical HomeCare can help. Our trained caregivers can provide help with things like bathing, grooming, meal preparation, and transportation. For more information or to schedule a free in-home assessment, call 502.583.8012.